I have just been reading an article from a Stacie Swift, who describes herself as a ‘wellbeing warrior’. She writes:
“Anger is a healthy and valid feeling, though not one that is always easy to express. We may not find it easy to control our messy emotions or share them appropriately, so we hold back and repress them.
We might feel silenced by stereotypes or judgements. There might not be a safe environment to display our frustrations. Maybe we are people-pleasers, conflict-avoiders, or just exhausted and not quite sure where to begin.
There are so many reasons why we might neglect to acknowledge our anger – yet the practise of processing and voicing our vexations can be a real boost to our mental wellbeing (and our physical health, too). When we see red, we need tools to work through those moments constructively and positively.
One answer is to start a rage page. “
(Stacie Swift, www.stylist.co.uk, 2021)
It inspired me to write my own!
- My first rage was why just the females of the species? Surely males also feel the need to rage too (maybe they are just better at venting).
- If I am struggling with a programme on the computer and ask someone if they know how to use it and if they can help me – then they spend an hour using my computer trying to work it out. If you don’t know say so!
- When you are in a restaurant with your partner/husband, and they don’t want a dessert, but you do. The waiter brings your dessert and two spoons – I’m not sharing, if they want some dessert, they should order their own b*@!#y dessert – and another thing, don’t pick at my food otherwise you will set me off.
- Individuals who look down their nose at parents whose child is having a tantrum in the supermarket. I’ve been there and done that; and given my child sweets/toy etc to make them quiet. I bet that individual changes their mind when they become a parent.
- Filtered images of friends on Facebook – who do they think they think they are kidding; we know what they really look like (in all honesty have to admit I’m jealous cos I don’t know how to use filters).
I could go on and on (never realised I held so much rage) however thought it would be more interesting to find out what causes other people’s rage – keep it going add your pet rage to the comments – can’t wait to read them.
By Nicky Hudson – Registered Manager, UK Fostering North East
Sources
https://www.stylist.co.uk/health/mental-health/rage-page/540627 – Stacie Swift’s article